“I want to be the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court.” “I want to become a billionaire.” “I want to look like a supermodel.”
Now, I am not against shooting for the stars, but let’s face it, we can get stuck sometimes when we create goals that are just a tad too lofty.
Perhaps a better approach is to ask ourselves, what is it that we wanted from our goals?
The best way to set attainable goals is to ask ourselves what we had hoped to gain from these lofty goals. Were we seeking empowerment? More confidence? More love? Feeling great about our bodies?
Becoming aware of these intended consequences can provide us with a greater understanding of what we are actually seeking in our lives. With this greater understanding we are able to then set goals that are not only more realistic but that will also provide us with what we really want out of life.
How do we discover what our true intentions are behind a goal? First, imagine what would happen when achieving that goal. What does that look like and see if it can be described as best as is possible.
We can then chose to do activities that bring us closer to those descriptions. Achieving even smaller career successes can feel empowering. Earning a decent salary but having free time for ourselves can make us happier than earning millions. Exercising and eating right can bring us closer to feeling great about our bodies.
So figure out what it is that you truly seek. Usually it is more accessible than what you originally imagined.
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